After being up for six hours last night with Z there is something everyone needs to know. You do not sleep when baby sleeps like ever!! In fact just prepare for not sleeping most of the night as well as not napping when baby naps. Also you will start to find it very annoying when people tell you ohh sleep when baby does or I hope your getting rest…it will literally drive you a little mad and make you want to tell those people where to shove it. Ohh and those people usually don’t have kids or have forgotten about the sleepless nights.
I knew breastfeeding was going to be hard and kind of painful. Also I understand that there is a sisterhood of breastfeeding moms out there, but I’m not one of them. For me it’s personal…very personal. It’s a time for me and little Z to bond and that’s the way it should be. I do not really want to discuss my methods or my experiences with family, friends or strangers. I don’t want emails from them about breastfeeding or books or for them to talk to their friends about me and my boobs. And I think I have that right like I said my boobs my choice!
The moment comes when you have been to the doctor and your pregnancy is confirmed and you realize you have to tell your family and friends about your life changing news. I had a pretty positive reaction from our families, my mom was surprised and his mom cried. We took the easy way out with most friends and did a Facebook photo post. And the rest of our family members found out by our moms. So it wasn’t too bad telling people of our upcoming life change. It is what happens after that, that makes telling everyone a little annoying. Everyone and their mother wants to give you advice. People who don’t have kids (but their friend or a family member does) want to tell you the stories they have been told, your mothers want to give out free advice even though you know times have changed and things are different from 30 years ago. People try to talk about breastfeeding and its benefits in front of others which is pretty uncomfortable. My list about this can go on and on. The part that makes all of this free mostly unwanted advice the most stressful if you have to be polite and do the smile and nod that way you don’t hurt anyone’s feelings. When you secretly want to just have it all stop. Oh and it’s lasts the entire pregnancy. For me it wasn’t morning sickness in the first trimester it was trying not to be a hormonal crazy woman ready to rip off your head and tell you off about the unsolicited advice. Morning sickness was a piece of cake I just couldn’t be around garlic or bacon, sucked for my husband who makes bacon egg and cheese before work because he had to give it up until I could stomach it again, but that was it.
Today my husband went back to work and it was just Z and I alone for the whole day. At first I was scared. I had this fear like what if she cried all day and I couldn’t fix it…because my husband has a certain way to soothe her. But we did pretty good for our first day together. She slept a lot and I was able to get some laundry done….so as I sit here later on in the evening while my husband holds her I realized one thing, I am pretty lucky I got a good kid.
I remember it like it was yesterday, March 14th 2014 was the day I found out I was pregnant. I was in shock when that little stick came up pregnant, so much shock that I took about 12 of those tests and saved each one. When my husband got home I didn’t know how to tell him so I just threw a plastic zip lock bag full of tests at him and said we are having a baby. He was shocked and turned white and I cried…Z was not planned, we were not trying nor was having a baby even a discussion. We both sat in our living room not knowing what to do next. So I made the move and made an appointment with a doctor to confirm my pregnancy (like 12 tests were not enough) and see where we go from there.
Okay…so it’s time to get down to the nitty gritty, the honest truth about being pregnant, labor and life after you come home from the hospital. Every woman has a different experience and if you ask me not everyone wants to tell you the total and complete truth about it either. So as you read more posts over the next couple days, weeks or months expect me not to hold back on anything.
Does or will this blog help me to avoid postpartum?? I am not really sure from a professional standpoint, but writing has always helped me and soothed my soul. So I guess that is the main reason I feel I started this blog for myself. Somewhere I can vent, share and laugh about being a mommy. I am normally a person who bottles things up and I knew if I did that with also trying to take care of a newborn that I would head down a bad path. So hopefully…fingers crossed…I am making a good choice and writing this blog helps me. And if someone out there in the blogosphere also finds any of my posts helpful then that is also wonderful.
If there is one person I am truly grateful for through this journey right now it is my husband. He has been amazing with our daughter and patient with me and my mood swings. He is juggling so many things right now, like working, building a beautiful crib and managing the house work. He has truly been a super dad and husband. Zoey and I are two very lucky girls to have a man like him in our lives. He might not read this or get to hear it very often but Thank You Thank You Thank You!!
Welcome to my page!! I am a first time mother embarking on the new world of becoming a parent. I have no doubt this journey will be funny and scary and amazing.